" I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, god, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling all that i am capable of doing but i am going to be pursued, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding. "